Raising a happy child
Raising a happy child
Becoming a parent is one of the greatest changes we can face. A child is truly the greatest surprise because we never know their personality until they grow up. Often we think, raising them will help to get good characteristics and to develop some traits but the true is-a child’s potential is revealed with time and every day is bringing changes. We get to be stunned by their acts, often by those which are opposite of ours, and ask ourselves, is it possible that my child possesses something which I never had or vice versa-how is it that she/he can’t reach milestones we reached earlier then their current age is?
Everything becomes much easier when we realize that they are completely unique and that our efforts to build certain characteristics will most probably be a lost effort. As a Geneticist I entered the world of parenting with an open mind, knowing that my child is a new person and that my parenting is there only to support her and not to push her into directions I think would be the best for her. Everything worked just fine, maybe because she is still a young child or maybe because I had enough time to give her. On that path, one obstacle was testing my attitude-she is a late talker and just recently started making first sentences. I placed a giant effort into her speaking, constantly repeating words, talking to her, slowing down when talking, and doing all those things pediatricians recommended. She passed several testing with the same results-a healthy child, waiting to start talking. There was a point when you start asking yourself is it enough, could I do anything else, do I miss something which could be crucial? We even stopped with all monitor-time in our home but positive results were not there. Slowly just two months before her third birthday she started repeating many words, not to me but to herself, like she was excluding me and my husband from this path, like we were not her public and was not meant to show us what she could or couldn’t do. At the same time, she was incredibly precise with puzzles, blocks, colors, holding a pencil and drawing, coloring and before potty training which was done easy and fast..above all she was showing high social skills, easily finding a company at the children’s playgrounds, one ability I never had and wanted. My child was not able to talk until the age of three and at that age, I was fluently reading. My child is a very social person and learns things without the need to prove herself to us. She laughs a lot and always seeks fun. I was a serious child and a smile is absent on every picture I have.
All those characteristics are only hers, and much much more.
She taught me to be patient and never compare her with other kids because they are all unique. Early walker-late talker and vice versa is really a thing:)
Every day is a blessing and just when we think-can we love our children more-next day show us that we can:) it seems that our love is growing with them.
